Monday 14 March 2016

Women In Me knows her worth !!

Woman is an epitome of love, purity, compassion and courage. We have seen, read and heard of many such instances where women have time and again proven themselves in different areas of life to prove their worth in the world against the other gender.

Today women in me doesn't want to prove anything to the world rather wants to ask the world, the society and to the women themselves.

Why do we need to prove at all?

I see more than anything else it's our own society and culture making it difficult for women to lead an independent life. Today if I forget all the rules, boundaries and the cynicism that applies only to women and decide to live happily with a set of open minded people who treat each other equally, care about each other's sentiments and value their opinion.. I think nothing else matters and there is no way out that I can be made to feel insecure, unequal or inferior in any other way. Neither do i need to prove myself for anything at all.

The biggest culprit in our society is the mindset of people that haven't changed over the years.

Today, Women are much more educated than they ever were. They are earning their own bread and bringing name and fame to their families. They are capable of doing almost everything that a human mind and body does in the form of man. In spite of having a same human flesh, blood and brains .. women are asked to prove themselves as if they are handicapped in some way.

This is a shear mindset or a cultural barrier that has been set by few and is being followed by many just because it gives the other gender an ego boost and proves them superior. 

My next question is What makes men a superior human being ? 

Kings felt superior when they went and fought the big historical wars to claim their victory over the others..But are men doing that today? Do we have kings anymore who have to prove themselves warriors and protect their kingdom?

The times have changed and so should we. Men don't need to dominate women in order to feel superior. We understand your worth and don't deny the fact that you complement us and your presence makes us feel even stronger. A man's qualities of strength and courage can be appreciative if used appropriately and for the goodness of society rather than discriminating and abusing women.

If given a thought, Today's times are the best when both men and women are capable of doing so much more with the education and awareness that's been around for a while now and can easily fit into each other's shoes as and when needed. It's the love, care and helping hand that needs to go along in order for a better times for the generations to come. 

Today, as a parent all I need to ensure for my child is good health, education, humanity, love respect and care irrespective of whether I have a girl or a boy child.

Where does the question of a gender even come from when we are dealing with humans who have the same mind and emotions? 

I would rather teach my child to be intelligent and independent enough to take a call and stand strong in difficult times. Loving, caring and sharing is something we start from the very beginning and these values go a long way even when they become adult and have a relationship to share with their partner. Just because the partner  is a women doesn't change the way we live life or the way one need to be treated. Women doesn't come with a pack of do's and dont's. 

So before I am a women, a wife, a daughter I am a human being who has the same mind as men and capacity to think and reciprocate, the same heart that pumps blood in the whole body as in men. In fact if there is any need to prove superior ... I as a women still win the game as I am also capable of giving birth to men. But I wouldn't take that credit because that's the way nature has created women and given her the strength to bare the pain to give someone a life. 

Let's respect nature for that and use the beautiful creation of God both men and women to the best of efficiency. Together we have the power to create wonders and bring the balance in life that's ever needed. 

We are both born to live together not to command or suppress each other.. It's as simple as that. All we need is to share the responsibility, work for each other than against and respect an individual and their needs.

That is the answer to all the bad in the society. One has to bring in the change in their own family to reflect it on society. 

The #WomenInMe wants to make sure non of the stereotyped thoughts passes on to my kids and they have an independent thinking on the basis of ethics, humanity, values and treat everyone equally. 

The #WomenInMe loves my father as much as my mother and truly believe both of them sacrificed in some way to raise me up and instilled values of love, respect and equality by being there for me as well as for each other.

The #WomenInMe loves the fact that i was raised along with two of my brothers and never felt any inferior to them as a kid. The women in me felt protected as they always stood by me. 

The #WomenInMe feels so proud when my husband says "you are my strength" and whatever i am able to achieve today is with your help and support.

The #WomenInMe cherish the unconditional love I get from my little boy, who showers it without asking for anything in return.

The #WomenInMe feels blessed when my parents in law love me like their daughter and trusts me with the responsibility of holding the family together and shower their blessings always.

 I am proud to be born as a woman and will always love the woman in me in the form of a mother, wife, daughter, sister and a friend.





Tuesday 1 March 2016

Top 5 Toys/ Sports you will never regret buying for your kid

Kids grow faster than we even realize... From the time they are born... Soon they are ready to run on their toes... And before we even know it they have a choice of their own.
With so much to offer kids in today's world, it's not easy for parents to choose the best in spite of huge spending’s.
Those days were different when we grew up playing with sand, stones and leaves from the trees. We were happy collecting feathers and pebbles that gave immense pleasure to our inner core as a child.
Today's kids stay indoors and spend all the time either playing with toys or watching TV. With the limitation of staying indoors the choice of toys has increased and there is so much to choose from that often parents get confused and end up picking the wrong toys without giving it a much thought.
Kids have short attention span and end up losing interest in even the most expensive toy you might have bought few hours ago. They want something new every minute and the key is to keep them interested by inventing new ways of playing or by giving them a toy that tests their skills. It keeps them busy for longer as kids don't give up easily...
Here are some of my sons favorites that I feel every kid of his age would love to have in their collection... Plus there are various learning benefits that comes along with developing skill sets while they are at play...
 1. Building blocks/ Lego/ Construction toys - I am sure this one is the top most pick for any kid between the age of 4 - 6. Every kid wants to own it no matter what size or price. Lego has a huge market and comes in all shapes and sizes. It's heavy on pockets but surely helps building up creativity, shape matching, memorizing and sequencing. It has huge learning benefits and is a great fun activity.
Checkout some of my sons favorites :
             

2. Action figures: My son has this fascination for superheroes and I am sure there is nothing strange about it. All boys do. He likes to collect his favorite characters and has a collection of avengers team and many more from Chota Bheem to ninja turtles. It's natural for kids to feel stronger than they are and these superheroes help them grow their imagination and bring alive the characters they have seen and heard in stories.
            

3. Role play toys/games : These makes for the best choice for kids when it comes to teaching them about the real world and make them familiar with the stuff we do in our day today life. They love to explore real life games as it brings confidence when they feel they can do it all that elders do. It's a great learning for kids this age when they are not toddlers anymore. Fire station, police set and shopping center are some of my son's favorites.
                 

As kids grow they need more than just toys to entertain themselves. There is so much physical strength and energy they have that needs to be utilized constructively to help them stay fit and healthy... 
4. Cycling/ skating/ swimming/ any sport : : Its equally important for kids this age to indulge in one or more of these physical activities that builds stamina, helps them grow tall and keep them on the move. It's equally important to go for the right size while choosing a bike as per kid’s age and height. It's natural for kids aged 5 and above to be able to pursue their favorite sport along with cycling and skating.
                

5. Hobby/Art/ Skill : It’s imperative for a kid of this age to pursue a hobby that can help them rejuvenate after a tiring day. Initial five years are good enough for a child and parent to understand a child's interest. It's a must for every child to have a hobby that he or she loves doing ... Be it singing, playing music, dancing, cooking or anything else.


This must be encouraged and invested in. I realised my sons interest in music when he was barely 3 and got him a small Casio to keep his interest and today he loves playing his profession piano I bought last year and it paid off.
We always have a choice as we walk in to the toy store to pick what we like. We must try and invest in things that help our kids develop the skills needed for them to grow and boost their confidence too.
When time is a constraint, online shopping gives a huge choice for kid’s products including the latest toys/ sports stuff for every age and need.
Not just that it saves us from spending more and gets us the best deals with various offers available from time to time.
Amazon.in is one of my favorite online stores especially when it comes to picking my kids favorites’. I prefer buying toys online from the comforts of my home and gets to choose along with my son from a huge range of toys available from various brands.


                          " Let's pick The Best for them to learn, grow and explore "