Is dressing up unaesthetically is misconceived as Fashion ??

Fashion has always been there and will always be ...In other words fashion is never gonna go out of fashion ...but the question is..Are we confusing fashion with immorality?? Is dressing up unaesthetically is misconceived as fashion ??

For me fashion has never been simply following trends from bollywood or fashion magazines..I prefer adapting to the fashion so that it enhances my outer appearance and is pleasing at the same time ....

My dad always believed in the proverb 'Clothes make the man' ....I still remember how we were reminded time and again to be presentable whether we visited someone's house, market or even when we had guests over..... Dare we came out in drawing rooms in our night suits or nighties.

Well trimmed and neatly tied hair ...with crisp ironed clothes..and a pair of appropriate shoes..... are the memories from my childhood.

One reason could be that I come from an Army background but I would still not believe that it wud ever become a fashion when people would feel pride in a pair of ripped jeans and step out in so called bathroom slippers (which was only meant for bathrooms) ...and still be considered cool and happening.

There was a time when neatly done up classy hair buns and braids used to make style statements...On a contrary...Now a days fuzzy braids, messy hair and out of the bed look is the talk of the town.

Though I accept that times have changed and especially in a place like Mumbai... People really don't care who is wearing what and have a very chilled out attitude.... However I fail to understand how
could it be so cool to dress shabbily and yet not bother of what others have to say ....

On one side where Mumbai projects the best of the fashion brands, accessories and new trends ....the other side people just look comfortable in their own skin ..and give a damn....to people's eyes gauging  their appearance ...Be it a model or a celebrity.. 

I understand they can't be dressed like million bucks all the time but at least don't be so poorly dressed as u have just been dragged out of bed ...( even out of the bed look is not so scruffy )

I really wonder why do we have our closets full of clothes when all we need is a pair of torn shorts and a Ganji that works well for all occasions..

I would feel sorry if they didn't earn enough to efford another pair ... But believe me these are the people earning like crazy n would prefer to step out in style ..

Even for men, more facial hair the better...it's considered fashionable to not shave for weeks and step out like one zombie.

I remember Dad always said ...There is a lot you can tell about a person by their shoes..and a mans footwear plays a very significant role in how he wants to be perceived as a man.

 

Dressing simply and comfortably was always considered the priority. According to Leonardo da Vinci.. simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.

Simplicity comes from purity, beauty and quality ... But
would you consider today's generation sophisticated??

Even if i choose to say yes which i doubt...My parents generation would never get convinced with this idea of fashion and style.

I personally feel we should spent at least a good few minutes...before the mirror to ensure we don't become a laughing stalk outside the comforts of our home.

I believe fashion is having a style of your own rather than blindly copying others... Always wear
comfortable clothing that looks gud on you not on your favorite star.. Dressing is a huge part of ones
personality and speaks volumes about them.

Everyone dresses up for an event or a wedding ...but how you project yourself in your daily wear is what people perceive of you .. 

As a child I was always told a well ironed and well fitted clothes are a requisite ... Then comes the colour the texture the brand and so on ..

We have indoors to dress as casually as we wish to ... However when we walk in a crowd we are bound to be judged by our looks and that's what we call a first impression ...

So here I would say Follow trends, be fashionable but above all keep it simple, decent and dignified ... Cause that's never gonna go out of fashion ..whatsoever.

Are parents pushing their kids for good ???

Life is a series of challenges filled with surprises.. And that's what makes life interesting. One of the biggest challenges could also be bringing up our children who are closest to our hearts and means the world to us... It can be an out of the world experience for many whereas many would have their world upside down with lack of patience n perseverance ....

Parenting is not a piece of cake, it's definitely a challenge that one has to accept once you are blessed with a child. Once a baby is born we long for the days when the challenge gets little lesser... Maybe once the baby turns 2 or another year or once they start schooling and so on....

And then comes the time when just schooling is not enough and we start engaging them into different  hobby classes, sports, activities and so on ...

How many of you think its in the best interest of the child? 

Are we trying to brighten their future by indulging them in these classes or are we pushing them to make space for ourselves??

I agree, many a times even parents don't have a choice but to keep the kid engaged in order to keep them away from
the other threats they might have in their absence.

However the question is how much is too much .....??

The school holidays turn out to be the craziest days to deal with ...when parents run out of ideas to keep the kids busy.

Thanks to these workshops during holidays....though many find it a waste of money .. A large number would crave for it to start.. ..To be honest all it takes is money but at  least it can take away the stress of dealing with the kid whole day long....that's too much to handle for many parents.

Well I am not trying to make parents feel guilty of the fact above .....but the truth is whether you agree or you don't ....you are taking away the best days of your kids life and of course yours too.           

I sometimes wonder, as kids grow they will have no choice but to join the rat race of handling responsibilities, proving their grades, finding jobs and so on...

This is the time when we have a choice to give them the freedom of going with their own pace, encourage playful learning, allow them to make mistakes and discipline them by being a role model. The days sans worries, tensions, far from day today rush with just love and affection surrounding them.

Isn't that how childhood supposed to be ??

It's not surprising to see kids lacking bond with their parents and grandparents ....

Are we to blame them for this lack of attachment ?

I wouldn't ...I personally feel its us who are making them feel distant by not being emotionally available to them when they need us the most..

Two great things you can give your children: One is roots, the other is wings. 

Childhood needs to be nurtured with love, care and devotion. Parents it is a sacrifice worth making!

                                       *To a child love is spelled as T I M E*

My first blog : carving the long lasting desire़़..

Someone was really sane to say it takes days, weeks, months n sometimes years before our thoughts start taking its shape n become a reality. Here I am a live example of slow n steady wins the race ....

It was an out of the world feeling to become a mother but not to forget equally stressful..as had to deal with everything for the first time and couldn't afford to take a chance cause a life was at stake even if a smallest-silliest things would go wrong...the consequences could b disastrous.. .

Anyways I am past that stage and a proud mum today. My little heart is young enough to handle quite of his daily chores...

While I was busy doing the best for my child everyday ...I started realising that not only I am losing out on my own individuality, but it's also hampering my capacities as a mother. May be I needed to channelise my energies ....too much of anything is never good !!

That's when I became conscious of the fact that I needed a space too and it's time to indulge myself in either a task or a hobby or a passion that I haven't thought of in years. Well it took me long two years n a half to realise my dream 
of writing a blog...

Like every dog has its day, this was my day when I got the kick in my head to actually put my thoughts together .

Now the whole idea was to start writing a blog n become a blogger, who else would answer my queries better than Google ...I opened my Ipad and immediately searched how to become a blogger..? That's where it began ...n loaded the page with too many information for me to read, apprehend and get started!! ......convenient was to drop the Idea n shut the page ...but something kept me going and I went ahead with my baby steps.

While I was halfway through I realised my so called blog doesn't match with the title I decided after a good amount of brainstorming. Once again in a dilemma, whether I should change the title or rewrite my thoughts to match the title. Guess I got carried away with my ideas .....Since I had too much to pen down from all these years I have been wanting to do so ...don't wanna stop now....

But I am sure I am gonna be judged by readers and can't afford to bore them in my very first blog, got to take a break after all and end it. Though feeling little off- course, I am sure I am not the only one around. Many mothers would relate to me and agree when motherhood becomes the priority in our lives everything else takes a back seat.